Nurturing ourselves isn’t something most of us do naturally. When we’re ill or plain exhausted, we might think about taking it easy then. However, we really need to look after ourselves, not just through good food or exercise or when we’re forced to, but every day. You can, if you choose, build something into your daily life that nurtures you. Something you do for yourself and no one else.
For the foodies, you could enjoy preparing good food and eating mindfully, order dinner in, go to a favourite café or see your favourite film at home with a cream tea.
If you’re into pampering the body, you might:
Lie in a scented bath and indulging in a silk eye mask
Enjoy a massage, have a sauna
Get your hair done, have a facial, pedicure or manicure
Do some yoga
Enjoy a heated neck and shoulder wheat bag while sipping your favourite tipple
Restore rest periods during the day
Snuggle your tootsies into a feet warmer
For the creative, nature-loving part of you could engage in daily nature breaks, indulge in a craft project, enjoy regular child’s play, go to a flower show/round a garden centre or visit an art exhibit/museum.
The creative, nature-loving part of you could engage in daily nature breaks, indulge in a craft project, enjoy regular child’s play, go to a flower show/round a garden centre or visit an art exhibit/museum.
Getting into the psychological, how about:
Begin your weekly planning by considering the activities you choose to care for your physical, spiritual, mental, and social well-being. Caring first for yourself helps you to be more available to serve in each of your chosen roles without anger and resentment.
Let go of petty annoyances. Make a list of 10 things in your life that bother you. Then give yourself a month to fix it, clean it etc… or let go of it!
Cultivate contentment. Ask yourself: Will this activity enhance my life? Will this relationship move me toward or away from what I want to be and do in my life?
Let go of the past. Imagine where you want to be in the future and move toward it.
Identify activities that are all-consuming but not necessarily important to you. This is a case of “less is more” – doing less of what is not important enables you to do more of what matters most.
To nurture yourself, with someone else, open yourself up to a friend you trust or go out with someone special.
For some solitary nurturing sit quietly and daydream by scented candlelight, journal, read, shop (for yourself), watch your favourite soap, listen to a music or relaxation CD or sleep.
While you might think that taking the time to do just one activity from the above list each day is a waste of time – are you really saying you’re not worth taking care of? Guilt is a wasted activity. You will feel no better for it. So enjoy that time for nurturing yourself now.